7 Guidelines To Raising Wise Children

By Coleen Ball June 4, 2010 Brian, family love Leave A Comment

I was reading Lisa’s blog post the other day about how the most intelligent people she meets these days are children.  Having five incredibly intelligent children of my own, I have to agree.  There’s something wise about innocence – it sees clearly.

My son Brian has been through a lot.  He has experienced pain most adults haven’t had to go through; and because of this, he has experienced a sense of connection to life (through near death) that most people haven’t.  His connection to life and the world around him is deep and significant.  I think that  a lot of what got Brian through his tragedy with such grace was, in part, due to the great wisdom that already existed in him.

My children have opened my eyes to innumerable perspectives and taught me so much, all I had to do was Listen & Learn.  Here are 7  ways for you to help guide your children toward wisdom and self-fulfillment.

  1. Give them a sense of responsibility: Taking responsibility for my mistakes and admitting what I’ve done wrong teaches my children to do the same.

  2. Challenge them: Know when to push and raise the bar higher and know when to back off.  In my household we call it the “Rocky Standard”.

  3. Instill confidence: My kids know that even though I might be afraid of something, I’ll do it anyway.  When you believe in yourself you can do anything.  I’m constantly telling them that I believe in them.

  4. Encourage them to trust their instincts:  Instinct is a sub-category of intelligence.  Learning to read situations and people clearly calls for a high level EQ (emotional quotient).

  5. Encourage curiosity: I send my boys to Kingsley Pines camp in Maine in the summertime. Kingsley Pines has a great philosophy:  Their goal is to make kids learn through their curiosity, while doing something new everyday with success.  Kingsley Pines was a great experience for my boys that I couldn’t duplicate as a single mother.  (http://www.kingsleypines.com/)

  6. Approach them as people, not always children:  I’ve always been the type of parent who speaks to her children as who I am.  I don’t change my mannerism, tone or vocabulary to speak to them.

  7. Encourage them to see beyond the surface of themselves and others:   Children naturally see beyond the surface of things.  As they get older, it’s important to encourage them to keep that perspective at the forefront of their experiences in the world.  I don’t let my children talk about other people.  I ask them to talk about concepts instead.

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As Always,

Coleen

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